Uche Elendu Airs Her Opinion On The Crash Of Celebrity Marriages

Nollywood actress Uche Elendu, has opened
up on her marriage, career and more. In the
interview with The Sun, Uche talked about
domestic violence, marriage, infidelity, and
more.

Read excerpts below;
Celebrity marriages are crashing here and
there; do you entertain any fear for yours?

My dear, crisis in marriage really has
nothing to do with the celebrity status.

Marriage is an agreement between two
matured individuals, and when these same
matured individuals feel that they do not
have any need to be together for safety of
their lives or for peace of mind; then it is
their choice. No one knows the battle we fight
in our marriages. The pain and hurt we feel,
the way we bottle it all up because we are in
the limelight and don’t want to be castigated,
but people forget that celebrities are human
too and have feelings, desires and deserve to
be happy. When I hear things like celebrity
marriage crash, I wonder why so much
attention is paid to it. Really, everyone has
his or her cross to bear.

A married actress once said almost all married
Nollywood actresses are unfaithful, how true is
that?

That’s the biggest lie from the pit of hell.

Everyone should speak for herself. That we
are in the limelight and have admirers from
the opposite sex doesn’t mean we are
sleeping with them. Just like there are
married women out there that are enjoying
extramarital affairs, so it is obtainable in
Nollywood and it is totally a personal
decision. There are still many married
women that are very faithful in their
marriages and have been unjustly accused
because of this general insinuation.

Would you leave your marriage if your
husband cheats on you?

(Laughs) I’m sure if your own husband cheats
on you, you will know what to do. It’s a
personal decision and I don’t need to sing it.

How do you handle fame and male fans?

I’m naturally a very down to earth person
and fame hasn’t changed me a bit. Although,
it has restricted me from a lot of things I
would love to do. As for male fans, I
appreciate them for loving what I do but it
remains that way.

What has celebrity status deprived you of?

Hopping on a bike (okada) when I’m stuck in
traffic is one of those things I’ll love to do on
Lagos roads. Then I want to walk into
Oyingbo market to do my shopping, get fresh
foodstuff instead of sending people and they
don’t get the real stuff. You know, I want to
be as free as air without making headlines or
having people stare at you like they are
watching a movie.

What has been your best moment as an actress?

Hmmm… It’s my traditional wedding. The
whole village came out to see their goddess,
even the king of my village graced the
occasion in his full regalia, and the respect
and recognition given to me by my state.

They graded the roads just for my guests to
have good access to my home, and the spark
of pride in my father’s eyes, recording the
most successful and crowded event till date
in my place. It was indeed a great honour.

Ever felt like quitting acting?

Quitting what? Never! That’s my profession,
my career, and my life.

Would you mind if any of your daughters join
the field?

My first daughter is already an actress and
has played major roles in three movies.

What kind of role would you reject?
Nudity in any form
Has marriage limited your flexibility in
choosing movie roles?

No way! My job entails bringing a character
to life and I go all out to give it my best.
If you have the opportunity to change anything
about yourself, what would it be?
I love me; the me that I am and the me that I
am to become.

What’s your take on domestic violence?

Domestic violence is about power and
control. Though, the term violence has
physical connotations, domestic violence or
abuse can occur in non-physical ways. When
a man refuses to provide for the family, it is
domestic abuse. When a woman refuses to
carry out her domestic and conjugal
obligations in the home, it is also domestic
violence, because these things give rise to
verbal abuse, sexual abuse and even physical
violence.

Domestic violence is a total violation of the
plan that God had when he joined man and
woman together. It’s totally against God’s
plan for families. Domestic violence is a far
cry from the character of Jesus Christ so it is
an abomination to indulge and be a
perpetrator of the act.

What do you think is the best way to stop or
reduce it?

To curb domestic violence, women have a
great role to play by understanding the kind
of men they get married to or get entangled
with. They must understand their
temperament thereby limiting the use of
verbal abuse that will give rise to physical
battering. Also, women should know when a
man is irresponsible and easily intoxicated
and gets physical at every provocation and
then walk out of such a demonic relationship
or marriage.

Men also have a great role to play by
understanding the fact that women’s strength
lies in their tongue and they don’t mean
almost everything they say. In fact, both
parties in a marriage have roles to play in
stopping domestic violence.